It kind of happened by accident

Sometimes you're chatting with your husband while you're in a tropical paradise teaching fitness classes to wealthy women and he remains in a northern rainforest looking after the cats and taking a weekend workshop. Trust me. It can happen.

And sometimes, during a chat like that, he mentions a hot Brazilian woman who'd been flirting with him at said workshop and you respond with:

and everything changes.

Because up to that point, the 'sexual adventures' you'd been discussing really meant threesomes or finally getting up the nerve to check out that downtown club where you could fuck in public. It didn't mean your husband boning a hot Brazilian woman and then giving you the dirty lowdown.

Something that at one point would have struck terror deep into your soul now strikes deep in your loins as 'fuck, that's hot!'

And suddenly the world of monogamish gets a whole lot more open.